This is the wonderful guest post from Mama Caro, who just gave birth to her second child - and has to let go of her first "baby" for it. The emotional chaos at the beginning, about the desperate attempt to do justice to everyone and yet having to make a decision.

As a mom, how do you deal with it when the big child suddenly prefers dad?! This is Mama Caro's report. She is a mother of two daughters, one and a half years and three weeks old.

What patterns do we carry within us as parents? How were we ourselves as a child, how did we perceive our own parents? Mama Caro writes about this in her wonderful and clever guest post:

Hooray, the baby is here! And with it the dear postpartum visit. Here is a selection of sentences you have experienced yourself that you may encounter as a new mom.

Many want to be, even more think they are, very few know what's really going on with mom and baby - especially when he's gone: the postpartum visit.

Chill, chill chill, because the baby wants to sleep: what should you do and what not in the first eight weeks after the birth of your baby? The top priority is: Relax.

"Ich hab doch schon den Geschirrspüler ausgeräumt, was willst du denn NOCH?!" - "ICH hab die halbe Nacht wach gelegen und das Baby gestillt, ICH hab seit vier Uhr nicht geschlafen UND Frühstück gemacht!" Na, kennste?

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